It all starts with communication. After you are accepted and we've reviewed your residential preferences, you should received home contact information and email address of your roommate through the MyLETU Portal. If you’d like, start with an email to break the ice: introduce yourself briefly and schedule a time to talk with each other on the phone. During this first conversation, don’t worry too much about who will bring what for the room. Use this time to begin getting to know each other and set a positive tone for your new relationship.
It’s totally natural to be anxious about this first phone call with your roommate. We have found that it’s best to be upbeat and positive, not to divulge all your quirks or high expectations all at once. Expect some differences—you both have several years of expectations, experiences, and opinions under your belts. Differences aren’t bad or automatically wrong—they’re neutral. One of the best aspects of living with others is learning to listen well, ask questions, and appreciate the unique qualities of each individual.
Remember that just as you’ll change in immeasurable ways during your time at LeTourneau, so too will your roommate, so don’t hold onto your first impressions too closely. After all, you probably wouldn’t want them to judge you too quickly, either! These impressions can drastically change as you get to know each other throughout the first semester. It is important to cut each other some slack and take your time getting to know each other better.
What should we talk about first?
The following are some questions and topics for you to consider during your first conversation:
- Where all have you lived? Where do you call home?
- How old are you?
- Who is in your family?
- Why did you want to attend LETU?
- What are you planning to study?
- What are you most excited about in coming to LETU?
- What are some of your interests/hobbies? What do you like to do for fun?
- What do you like to read, watch, or listen to?
- What anxieties do you have about coming to LETU?
- What makes you unique?
Throughout the time that you live at LeTourneau, you will quickly learn that communication with your roommate (especially speaking the truth in love early) is essential for having a good overall on-campus living experience. So take the initiative now and set the stage for a great relationship!
What should we cover in further communication this summer?
After you have a little more knowledge about each other, feel free to start talking about more practical items, such as:
Decorating – some people want to have coordinated bedding or wall coverings; some already have their own. Ask carefully so you do not set up expectations.
- Will you use the following items in your room? If so, who will bring these items?
- DVD Player, VCR, Stereo
What Should We Talk about Early During the First Semester?
While it may seem awkward to actually ask these things, the answers are crucial to share with one another in one form or another. Be willing to step outside your comfort zone and meet your roommate half-way, but in areas of great importance for you, also be willing to set good boundaries and ask that you roommate respect those. Above all, be completely honest, sharing your true feelings and not just want you think the other individual wants to hear.